Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Not For Sale

This is kind of a comment or reply post - whatever you'd like to call it, to a post 'Yeh kia jagha hai doston' from my fellow blogger Kanwalful. Instead of posting my comment there at her post. I decided to create a seperate one here so that those of you who are not there, can comment here. I've been reading A LOT  about trafficking and forced prostitution lately. Just finished reading 'The dancing girls of lahore'  and it touched not only my heart but the core of my very soul. I then read some of the articles over internet and saw few documentaries.

This is a sad story; written every day through out the world. Trafficking and forced prostitution is not confined to any particular part of this world. Every day women are going through worst exploitation in the thriving Porno industry ; it is legal to Exploit and even spread perversion of the worst kind through every media including Internet. In this epic of exploitation girls/women are exploited by men & women both. Starting from East Europe to East Asia, sexual exploitation of minors are happening on the street, women are bought and sold on the road side. Every state , every society , every citizen of this world is responsible for this. Those who exploit and those who remain silent and let the trade go on , both are criminals. Including us of course.

It is common practice to call a Woman Sex Worker as Whore/ Slut / Randi / Veshsa but those people who forced them into this trade, those people who support this system by enjoying the exploit they are some one's Daddy / Baba / Abba / Bhaiya / Brother / Husband / Hubby / Shauhar.

According to a UN report about 4 million women and girls worldwide are bought and sold each year - either into prostitution or slavery. Approximately 1 million children enter the sex trade every year. As many as 50,000 women and children from Asia, primarily from subcontinent.

I can't believe we're free for 60 years and prositution is still flocking and I am sure 70 percent of them wouldn't be aware of sexually transmitted diseases or AIDS.It is a really sorry state of affairs. About the HIV awareness campaigns in pakistan, I think it's just cool to talk about HIV these days, sort of a wannabee thing, if you know what i mean? I wish that some of our celebrities start talking about food hygiene, TB and Hep. B&C vaccinations it would help a lot more people but I think that they don't understand the situation. I've seen Waseem Akram talk about diabetes and that was awesome. He's a brand ambassador for blood sugar monitors! Isn't that kool? If only our beloved stars would do more of these practical things instead of trying to talk about issues that don't concern us that much, we would be a healthier nation.

I'll give you an example of the degree of un-awareness in our rural areas: People don't want Polio vaccine for their children because they think it has infertility medicine in it!!

I've read and heard so much about all of it and over the time I've realized that at the end of the day no one really seems to think it's a priority. Many *red light* districts all over the world - they just seem to be *accepted* at this point it seems.

Anyone interested in this topic should watch the PBs documentary called "Born Into Brothels". I could not hold back my tears after watching this one. Check out the website: www.kids-with-cameras.org/bornintobrothels/

Why Don't They Know?

It happens, over and over again. In times of desperate need, the parts where you completely break down and cry with grief and fear...You don't find them around you. Them. All of THEM. Everyone who means so much to you. You would have thought that when God had created a phenomenon as beautiful as love, he'd also bother to create.. I don't know, maybe those weird, metaphysical connections between loved ones. So that when you suddenly started sobbing on a rainy day.. they'd somehow know.

It's just not fair. And it's retarded how it always happens. ALWAYS.

Has this ever happened to you?

Sunday, January 24, 2010


At first, it was frustrating.
Now, it's just plain amusing. 
The smirk-and-shake-head-cynically-and-fondly type amusing.

For some goddamn reason, 
you start thinking for a few moments that you have life figured out.
 And then comes the slap. :)

Saturday, January 23, 2010

The lucky Chinese Tag - Eminent Eight

(Image by Juliana)
Yaay! I've been tag here at bloggers for the very first time.
I'm loving it. Its such a wonderful feeling to get to know the fellow blogger
more. Its a wonderful world. :) 

8 TV Shows I watch

  1. Grey's Anatomy
  2. Sex and The City
  3. Gossip Girls
  4. Malaal
  5. Meri Zaat Zara e Benishan
  6. Survivor Heroes vs Villains 
  7. 90210
  8. And all the other food related shows.
8 Favorite place to Eat
  1. Nandos
  2. Pizza Hut
  3. B.BQ Tonight
  4. China Grill
  5. Arizona Grill
  6. Copper Kettle
  7. Subway
  8. My Place :D 
8 Things I look Forward to

  1. Marriage and Love
  2. My Studies
  3. Be regular with Gym and having the proper diet I should have and hence GREAT WEIGHT LOSS.
  4. Reading and Writing, more and regular.
  5. Get rid of annoying habits
  6. Him to come back soon. (IMY)
  7. To get back my enthusiasm 
  8. For a better day, Everyday :)
8 Things that Happened Yesterday

  1. I got up late because I slept after 10 a.m.
  2. Had only 2 cups of tea. Totally abnormal act. lol (Just because of you).
  3. Got addicted to a Blog (Hey Kanwal-ka-ful) :D 
  4. Read and wrote A LOT  more than usual.
  5. Watched 2 movies.
  6. Ate Nothing.
  7. Missed someone so bad.
  8. Got back with a friend I stopped talking to for silly reasons.
8 Things I love about winters

  1. Blankets !
  2. Dry Fruits.
  3. Hot chocolates and soups.
  4. The warm sun and you really want it to touch your skin.
  5. Oranges.
  6. That feeling to snuggle early in the morning.
  7. Warm hugs
  8. Something I think I should not write here, But you know what it is :P Don't you? ;)
8 Things on my Wishlist

  1. A life I can make and be proud of.
  2. The world free of terror attacks and jerks
  3. Being a proud owner of Canon 450 D and Iphone 3GS
  4. A cute cat !
  5. Peace
  6. To be able to be kind enough for others
  7. To grow my social circle.
  8. To make my mother the happiest person alive!
8 Things I am Passionate about

  1. You. 
  2. Photography.
  3. Writing and reading.
  4. Fragrance, Designer bags and shoes.
  5. Learning.
  6. Family.
  7. Staying in shape (I know being passionate about food and staying in shape at the same time is HELL difficult).
  8. Tea? :/
8 Words or Phrase I use often

  1. Awww
  2. Okay (Theek)
  3. Seriously
  4. Totally
  5. Good hai.
  6. I don't know
  7. Tell me something more/ What else (Aur Bataoh)
  8. Oh no..
8 Things I learnt from the Past

  1. There are opportunities in just about every experience.
  2. You can’t piss anyone off by praising them
  3. Each and every day do something to improve the quality of your life. The simplest little things can add huge value over time
  4. The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re scared to make a mistake
  5. No matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win
  6. It’s not about getting a chance, it’s about taking a chance. You’ll rarely be 100% sure it will work. But you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Sometimes you just have to go for it!
  7. Complaining is like slapping yourself for slapping yourself. It doesn’t solve the problem, it just hurts you more
  8.  True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.
8 Places I would love to Go,Visit or See

  1. Asturias, Brazil
  2. Seychelles 
  3. Venice, Italy
  4. Rome, Italy
  5. Egypt
  6. Switzerland
  7. Iceland
  8. Kerry, Ireland
  9. Palermo, Italy
  10. Moscow, Russia
  11. Amsterdam, Holland
  12. Paris, France (Sorry I can not chose the best 8, The list is still not over)
8 Things I currently want or need

  1. Canon 450 D
  2. Save money and spend less
  3. Iphone 3GS
  4. New Books (suggestion please)
  5.  To have a body I love
  6. To have a routine which I savor more and live with more too
  7. A facial :/
  8. Peace of mind. :)
And I need to tag 8 Blogger Friends.

Friday, January 22, 2010

Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel García Márquez

Gabriel Garcia Marquez's "Love in the Time of Cholera" is an epic love story of two people who first fall in love as children, separate, lead their separate lives and are brought back together at the end of their lives.

Probably my favorite book of all time. Every sentence takes your breath away. I found this title deeply moving and was completely taken with every moment of each character's life. I've read this book several times and each time ended with tears in my eyes. Marquez is a master of poetic fiction and this book is written in rich and beautiful prose. Even in an English translation, the language is musical, picturesque and poetic.

Love in the Time of Cholera is not a reading experience, it is a life experience. If you choose to read it, do so uninterrupted, slowly, and with great attention. You will be rewarded with a great love story of an ill-fated love between two members of a small town in South America, and the story of their courting, a courting that lasts for over half a century.

I've recently watched the movie too, they hardly do any justice when they convert a book into a movie, but it was pretty ok. To give anymore details would be cruel, just go ahead and read the book first then watch the movie, you'll know yourself ;)

Thing to think

"The utmost ignorance is that
a man does not know his worth."
- Hazrat Ali.

Some underestimate their worth, some overestimate on their inanity.
Where do you stand?

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Struck by Insomnia

Its so late at night, and I have no hint of sleep
I want to sleep, but I can't.

Maybe it's this computer, maybe not!
Maybe something else.
Maybe it's my wait for nothing that doesn't let me sleep.
But I want to sleep.

Wise wednesday

"Every single person 
has at least one secret 
that would break your heart.
If we could just remember this,
I think there would be
a lot more compassion
and tolerance in the world." 
-Frank Warren

Tuesday, January 19, 2010


By now you've heard about the earthquake in Haiti, but have you seen the quotes that CNN is running across their homepage?  This one just caught me and broke my heart:

"Port-au-Prince is devastated, lots of deaths. SOS. SOS ... Temporary field hospital ... needs supplies, pain meds, bandages. Please help us."

I'm cancelling the post I had planned for today and asking you to help instead.  Melisa pointed out that most Haitians live on $2 a day, so your $5 could really do something.

Please donate to the Red CrossUNICEF (to help the children of Haiti) or Mercy Corps,

Please do whatever you can, anything at all.  Also, please consider using your blog today to encourage your readers to help.

Thoughtful Tuesday


people make bad choices 
because there’s no one around 
to help them make good ones.
 —Nora Roberts

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Comment Freedom

I get all these little random messages that people come and peek at my blog and they also tell me that they can't comment which NOT true.And for a record, I just checked it again.

I purposely left this blog for ANYONE to comment on it. If you don't know how, here are the steps:

1. click on comment
2. write a message
3. select profile name/url
4. type in name
5. post comment

it's really that simple so no more excuses people!

New Moon

When I first watched Twilight, I thought it was shit.  Then two nights ago I watched New Moon and I thought it was shit, maybe even shittier. I mean, they probably made so much money off the first movie that they could have gotten a better director to push these so-called actors andactresses to act better.  

Honestly, I didn't think the book was awesome either other than the story.  All the characters are too annoying and immature, I mean half the time, Bella has no idea what she wants and it clearly shows how girls are just lost in real life.  Jacob is just an immature boy who turns into a wolf and Edward is just kinda sissy.  The story was smart, making people think that humans can live with vampires and wolves and find love in between. But Taylor was really hot for a 17 year old boy and apparently put on 15 pounds for this role.   

Anyway, I wouldn't recommend anyone this movie unless you want to see Taylor's abs cause it's the only part worth seeing. 

The Way I See It # 1

"The best thing you can be in winter is warm."

How I feel

I'm down with cold, upset stomach, nausea, constant vomiting's, fever and weakness caused by all of it.
Adding to this misery,even the medicines don't suit me.
I hate it. I hate being sick. Well but who wouldn't?
I hope you all don't have to feel this way.

Have a great weekend !

Message for women putting up colours on Facebook

Please do us all a favour - if you want to put the colour up, mention a link to Breast Cancer Awareness - because you putting up your colour of bra does absolutely NOTHING to actually bring out awareness for Breast Cancer.

If you genuinely want to pass the information along, post a link or two - otherwise you putting up your Bra colour with no real reason seems stupid. Most of the people does not even know what is this all about.

I said it. Stupid.

It seems to devalue what Breast Cancer actually is - and you guys should make an effort to actually spread awareness since this "prank" has become viral.


Sometimes, nothing feels better than swimming into the pool of wonderful memories you've shared with different people at different stages of life. Most of them makes you laugh and sad at the same time, because you wish to live them again. The wonderful time spent with parents; schools first day; our first best friend, sharing lunch box with friends; eating in the class exactly in between the lectures; falling asleep during chemistry class; fighting over silly things, first with friends and then in no time fighting for them, with other; crushes and going crazy after them or Falling in love for the very first time. The list continues... Every other person leaves a memory in ones life, priceless memories.
some of them are the ones we wish we never ever have had lived, Memories we regret making.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

A question I ask myself..

I wonder...

why is it.. that the 3 things I really want at the moment..
all cost a small fortune???

(Canon 450 D, Apple iphone 3Gs and gucci chiodo 122)

Money fairy.. are you there?!

Have a wonderful Friday!!!

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

I loveeth!

I never believed in love at first sight.. Untill

Monday, January 4, 2010

I love you

I know you didn't want to leave, Your heart yearned to stay, But the strength I always loved in you, Finally gave way.. Somehow I knew you would leave me this way, Somehow I knew you could never, never stay. I still Live you ♥

Sunday, January 3, 2010

*Picture of the day*

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Happy Birthday, Papa.

I wish I had more to say :)

Awesome Mausam!

It's a wonderful weather today. A cup of tea and a good book, It couldn't get any better.

of course, If only you were here by my side. I MISS YOU SO BAD :)

Kite Runner By Khaled Hosseini

There is only one sin, only one. And that is theft. Every other sin is a variation of theft. When you kill a man, you steal a life. You steal his wife’s right to a husband; rob his children of a father. When you tell a lie, you steal someone’s right to the truth. When you cheat, you steal the right to fairness. There is no act more wretched than stealing. A man who takes what’s not his to take, be it a life or a loaf of naan. I spit on such a man – The Kite Runner

"The Kite Runner" one of my fav. books tells a heartbreaking story of the unlikely friendship between Amir(a suni) and Hassan (a shia) One is a passionate reader..the other illiterate.This is one of those marvelous books that opens up our hearts and minds. This is a gritty book..the beauty and violence of this country...Afghanistan...comes to life..The customs and food and smells of the city...the desolation of life and the loss of the country to madmen who are running it with only their imagined vulgar needs and wealth in mind that destroys a culture so different and rich...I just couldn't stop reading this book the first time I read it. And so I'm reading it again.

Friday, January 1, 2010

*Picture of the day*

Happy New Year- To my west coast friends.

Happy New Year

Be safe. Don't commit a crime.
Use a condom.


Love, Eat, Pray

01. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

Memorize your favorite poem.

Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, or sleep all you want.

04. When you say, "I love you",
mean it.

05. When you say, "I'm sorry",
look the person in the eye.

06. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

Believe in love at first sight.

08. Never
laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

09. Love
deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

10. In disagreements,
fight fairly. No name calling.

Don't judge people by their relatives. :/

Talk slowly but think quickly.

13. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "
Why do you want to know?"

14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great

Hug your mom often and tell her that shes the most important person in your life

16. Say "
AlHamdullilah" when you hear someone sneeze.

17. When you lose,
don't lose the lesson.

18. Remember the three R's:
Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.

19. Don't let a little
dispute injure a great relationship/friendship.

20. When you
realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

22. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

23. Spend some time

24. Open your arms to
change, but don't let go of your values.

25. Remember that
silence is sometimes the best answer.

26. Read more
books and watch less TV.

27. Live a good,
honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll get to enjoy it a second time.

28. Trust in God but do all security precautions.

29. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.

30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation.
Don't bring up the past.

31. Read between the lines.

Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.

33. Be
gentle with the earth.

34. Never give up on something you truly love.

35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.

36. Mind your own business.

37. Don't trust a man/woman who doesn't close his/her eyes when you kiss.

38. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.

39. If you make or have a lot of money, put it to use
helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.

40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.

41. Learn the rules, then break some.

42. Remember that the best relationship is one where your
love for each other is greater than your need for each other.

43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

44. Remember that your
character is your destiny.

45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

46. Pray. There's immeasurable power in it.

47. Shed those extra pounds! ASAP

All is well !

From last few days, every time I logged in to my Facebook account I saw friends recommending an Indian movie over their status updates. It is normal for a couple of people to like the same movie, but almost around 12 friends actually 'loved' it. And that’s what made me finally watch, 3 IDIOTS. And no I've no intentions of writing a whole boring review about the movie and you dare not read any of the reviews over internet, go watch it yourself. Trust me; I'm not a movie person. So, when I'm saying it's worth a watch, it probably is.
It’s a movie adaptation of Chetan Bhagat’s Five Point Someone, a truly lighthearted and entertaining journey of three friends as they try to figure themselves out and share unforgettable experiences. 3 IDIOTS, starring three of my favorite Indian actors, Amir Khan, R. Madhvan, Kareena Kapoor and the third idiot Sharman Joshi. Three actors from the path-breaking RANG DE BASANTI team - team up yet again. It had to be a good movie. But I didn't expect it to be this good. It makes you weep and laugh, both at the same time.
Kareena Kapoor looks so very cute too! Simple yet beautiful. Her chemistry with Amir didn't go well but that’s something I can ignore, since it's not a romantic movie. Other than that, everyone gave their 200% performance
The music on the other hand was fun too. I loved 'Give Me Some Sunshine', 'Behti Hawa Sa Tha Woh', 'Zoobi Doobi' and 'Jaane Nahin Denge'
It’s a complete package! A must watch. Life is about listening to your heart and chasing your dreams, that's the essence of 3 IDIOTS. For further information, go watch !